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Sentimental Christmas Gifts 2018

It’s October 3 but to those of you who are already giving Christmas gifts a thought you might be feeling stressed, confused or even heart palpitations! ..Okay, so that’s a little off the wall but I know that the older my children get (all four are adults now!) the harder it is to come up with a useful and meaningful gift. I mean, they could always use gift cards and cash but I would like to have something more meaningful for each of them to have and keep for their future family.

CHRISTMAS THESE DAYS!

I think it’s safe to say that today’s gift givers are looking for a more meaningful gift to give our loved ones and what better gift than that made of a sentimental piece of clothing? Since I began offering sentimental sewing services such as memory bears and memory pillows, it came to my attention that many of my customers would like to have a matching memory blanket made…so today I am offering memory blanket sewing services!

 

SENTIMENTAL GIFTS

Memory bears, memory pillows/pillowcases, and blankets can be made from combining your favorite dress, suit, ties, shirts, uniforms, blankets…just about anything you or your loved one used to wear. Don’t worry about holes or stains, I can work around those! Please know that to ensure CHRISTMAS DELIVERY I must have your clothing and your payment by October 20, 2018

PRICING AND DETAILS

T-Shirt Blankets

Pillows/Pillowcases

Memory Bears 

Memory Bear Pricing

Single Memory Bear $75.00 plus shipping
Groups of 2 memory bears or more $50.00 each plus shipping

Memory Blanket/Memory Quilt Pricing

 

QUILT /BLANKET SIZING and PRICING USING

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ADULT SHIRTS SIZES L, XL, XXL

  • Lap = 4 ft. W  x 4 ft.L = 16 panels = $90
  • Twin = 4 ft.W x 6 ft.L  = 24 panels = $110
  • Full = 5ft.W x 6 ft.L =  30 panels = $130
  • Queen = 7 ft. Wx 7 ft. L =  49 panels = $190
  • King = 8 ft. Wx 8 ft. L = 64 panels = $240

NEWBORN, INFANT, CHILDREN SHIRTS

  • SMALL : 2.5 ft.W x 3.5 ft. L = 24 panels =  $110
  • MEDIUM: 3 ft. W x 3.5 ft. L = 30 panels = $130
  • LARGE: 4.5 ft. W x 4.5 ft. L = 49 panels = $190
  • EXTRA LARGE: 5 ft. W x 5 ft. L = 64 panels = $240

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Notes:

1 panel equals 1 side of your shirt. If you have a shirt with a picture on the front and the back and you would like to have both panels included in the quilt then you would count that as 2 panels.

 

Memory Bears made from your favorite clothing made right here in Beaufort, South Carolina. My Sewing Needle is owned and operated solely by Stephanie Grams. Grams has been sewing since her grandma and mother taught her at the age of seven, and hasn’t put the sewing needle down since! You can find Grams selling her OOAK primitive dolls and offering memory bear sewing services year round! Visit Stephanie’s contact page for media inquiries and/or to place an order for a memory bear!

Memory Bears in the News: The Club No One Wants to Join, But is Full of Members

Memory Bears and the Club No One Wants to Join

 

This blog post is a mix of real-life experiences as a publicity assistant and a child loss mom. I was reading a story written from another newspaper on how a mom had a stillborn daughter and the hospital gave her and her family a special bassinet that had a hidden cooling pad in it so she and the family could spend 48 hours with their deceased child. The story went on to say that they had the ashes of the deceased child placed into a memory bear keepsake that was created from the child’s siblings baby outfit and blanket.

The Broken Mother’s Club

It’s not a club any mom wants to join, yet it has members joining daily. The broken mother’s club is what it is called, yet rarely spoken about and as time goes on the members continue to grow and it changes everything because when it happens our first inclination is to shut everything out and not confront our reality because it’s too difficult. If members of the broken mother’s club were more open to honestly dealing with their personal grief and be willing to share their story with other’s who are new to the journey, perhaps we would be able to create an atmosphere where we don’t feel alone.

To Be Honest

To be honest, I was never a teddy bear person, until Hannah passed away, Then in 2002, I began a teddy bear ministry that was introduced to me through a distant cousin of mine. The difference between then and today is that I offer custom memory bear sewing services that are made from your clothing, whereas in the past I used to by ‘off the shelf’ teddy bears. Then this year something changed for me, it was after many years of prayers for a way to reach others with the Love and comfort of Christ through using my gifts and talents. There is still so much to be done in my memory care gift business and on many occasions, I have to step away from the computer and revisit my written plans just to be sure that what is happening is real.  For example, the other day I was speaking with a fellow woman in business who juggles a completely different business than mine, and our paths crossed one day on Facebook when I posted a ‘job wanted’ sign on my wall. We got on the phone and spoke, though the opportunity she presented me was not a good fit, we were able to give one another idea for business outreach and growth.

Super Women-ish

It seems that everywhere you look there is a broken mom, they come in all shapes, sizes, ages, races, and from all walks of life. Some hold their heads up high while others are too weak to hold their heads up at all. Their grief can come from a loved one’s death,  the loss of a friend, a pink slip from work, or any other broken relationship that can happen. The blog isn’t just about child loss or bereavement of a child, no, in fact, it’s about grief and learning to heal through any of the life’s promised grievances. One thing we can most likely agree about is that a real superwoman doesn’t wear a cape and a big ‘S’ on her chest…she most likely wears a fake smile and blends in with others. The Broken Mother’s club is open 24/7/365 and has new members entering every second of every day, and if we stop to look around our community I bet we will see a need for a real club that offers friendships, in a non-judgemental way, and offers the real solution to their brokenness.

Standing Ovation

No, I’m not talking about the secular song…I’m talking to you, BROKENHEARTED MOTHER! Every day you wake up and learn to be stronger, learn how to ‘deal’ with everything that once was nothing and has become the very weight that wants to pull you back down. Every day you get out of bed, you are a real hero. Every day you look at your loved one and chose to remember one good moment, you are the hero! Every day you decide to forgive the person who brought you to this time in your life, you are the real hero. I’m not one to give myself a pat on the back, because honestly, my strength comes from Lord and without Him, I would be nothing! So, take this moment and remember that every time you get up, get dressed, and learn to live, someone is giving you a standing ovation!

Memory Bears made from your favorite clothing made right here in Beaufort, South Carolina. My Sewing Needle is owned and operated solely by Stephanie Grams. Grams has been sewing since her grandma and mother taught her at the age of seven, and hasn’t put the sewing needle down since! You can find Grams selling her OOAK primitive dolls and offering memory bear sewing services year round! Visit Stephanie’s contact page for media inquiries and/or to place an order for a memory bear!

Memory Bears are Teddy Bears Made from Clothing

What is a Memory Bear?

A memory bear is a stuffed teddy bear made from your favorite clothing or clothing from a loved one that has passed away. Memory bears come in all sizes. The typical size requested is 15″-18″ in length.

How is a Memory Bear Made?

A memory bear, or keepsake teddy bear, is made from a few pieces of your favorite clothing. Most memory bears are made from 3 pieces of clothing or a combination of clothing, ties, and blankets. Your memory bear designer can discuss these details with you before you place and pay for your order.

How long does it take to make a memory bear?

Memory bears can take 7-12 business days depending on the number of memory bears you order. Many people like to place group size orders to save on shipping and many times the memory bear designer will give a discount on large group orders.

Why would I pay for a memory bear when some volunteer for free?

There is a saying that goes, “you get what you pay for” and that means you may never know who the memory bear designer is and may not know what your memory bear will look like until it is delivered to you. There are horror stories of unpleasant looking memory bears being made by volunteers, and the sad truth is, once your favorite piece of clothing is cut, there’s nothing you can do to fix it. Why take the chance on receiving an unsightly memory bear when you could have a beautiful one made for an affordable price?

How do I order a memory bear?

This process of ordering your custom memory bear from Stephanie Grams (My Sewing Needle) is super simple!

  1. You pick out your favorite, freshly laundered clothing (no fabric softener, please)
  2. Shipping them to me with your order form and payment (payments taken through Paypal)
  3. I design and sew your bear according to your request
  4. I ship your bear back to you!

We have a dedicated page for ordering processes and FAQ 

How much is a memory bear?

Our memory bears are frugally priced at $75.00 and INCLUDES SHIPPING  (UNITED STATES ONLY). The memory bear is packaged nicely and ready to be given as a gift (or keep for yourself), shipped via USPS with basic insurance and a tracking number. I will send you the tracking number so you can track your memory bear!

Do you have pictures of your memory bears?

Yes, I have pictures of my memory bears and testimonials!

 

 

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Memory Bears made from your favorite clothing made right here in Beaufort, South Carolina. My Sewing Needle is owned and operated solely by Stephanie Grams. Grams has been sewing since her grandma and mother taught her at the age of seven, and hasn’t put the sewing needle down since! You can find Grams selling her OOAK primitive dolls and offering memory bear sewing services year round! Visit Stephanie’s contact page for media inquiries and/or to place an order for a memory bear!

Memory Care Gift Ideas for Loved One with Alzheimer’s

Memory Care Gift Ideas for Loved One with Alzheimer’s

Today’s blog post is going to steer away from my regular blog topic of being a bereaved mom to that of having a loved one with Alzheimer’s.

My paternal grandmother, the one that was an integral part of teaching me how to sew and be a crafty soul, who ended up with Alzheimer’s. According to the Alzheimer’s Association, there are three stages of Alzheimer’s; mild, moderate, and severe.

I remember the first signs of Alzheimer’s in my grandmother was when she would buy cat food thinking it was tuna fish for human consumption. About that same time, she began displaying unusual acts such as stealing silverware from restaurants and carrying them in her purse, and stealing pictures of unrelated people and saying they were pictures of her boyfriend. As you can imagine this caused some family turmoil and heartache. I remember watching her go ‘downhill’ quickly and feeling like I was watching a slow death happen right in front of me, or at least what I compare to slow death. You have to give me grace because I was a young and this happened in the mid-1990’s when there was no internet, not television commercials and definitely very little education.

When thou passest through the waters,
I will be with thee;
and through the rivers,
they shall not overflow thee:
when thou walkest through the fire,
thou shalt not be burned;
neither shall the flame kindle upon thee. ~ Isaiah 43:2

For a short while, she lived with my family until one day she decided she was “going home”. She proceeded to put on her winter coat and boots (it was 90 degree’s outside) and leave. Our house was on a very busy road that was connected to a major highway, needless to say, I followed her and carefully got her back to the house unharmed. It was at that time we knew there had to be some help, we just didn’t know where to look. I’m so thankful that there are memory care facilities that specialize in the hands-on care that those living with Alzheimer’s can live safely, other than nursing homes.

Nursing Home

While my grandmother lived in the nursing home almost an hour away from our house, we would make a visit to her every week. During her few years there and as she progressively grew worse, we would make sure she had some items familiar to her. The moment she lost her ability to speak was the most traumatic for me, personally, because I knew that I would never be able to hear her voice again. I could see her smile, hold her hand, hug her and feed her and though those are all the ways we communicate, there was just something so heartbreaking knowing I would never hear her voice again.

We made sure to bring memory care gifts to my grandmother on a regular basis once we learned that other residents would walk off with her gifts. I believe that the memory care facilities that are available these days have a better system in place to be sure that each resident has the ability to keep their personal items within their own rooms.

Here are a few memory care gifts that we brought to her:

  1. Pictures – we made copies of pictures that she has in her house, being sure to keep the originals in a safe place. Scrapbooking was not popular or readily available as it is now, so a scrapbook would be perfect and more durable.
  2. Clothing – she loved the color mauve so we did what we could to find mauve colored clothing.
  3. Toys– she loved cats and we noticed how she perked up when we bought her a replicated a real cat. Oh, how she loved that toy!

Now that I provide memory care gift sewing services, I know how sentimental her favorite, handmade dresses and blouses mean. I do not have a way to get those pieces of clothing back, but if I could, I would have made memory bears for all of her grandchildren. I think that thing that drives me to create one of a kind memory bears for families is because

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Stephanie Grams, Christian Blogger Mom on topics of lifestyle, bereavement, child loss and healing, and how to give gifts of encouragement during life’s storms. Stephanie is available for podcast and video interviews, public speaking, and guest blogging. Did you get your free pdf journal? It’s free when you join my newsletter! #mysewingneedle

 

 

Memory Bears made from your favorite clothing made right here in Beaufort, South Carolina. My Sewing Needle is owned and operated solely by Stephanie Grams. Grams has been sewing since her grandma and mother taught her at the age of seven, and hasn’t put the sewing needle down since! You can find Grams selling her OOAK primitive dolls and offering memory bear sewing services year round! Visit Stephanie’s contact page for media inquiries and/or to place an order for a memory bear!

Judging from the Outside: Coping with Chronic illness

Two of my four (living) daughters live with a chronic illness, epilepsy. When they were very young (ages 11 months; 2 years) we spent every 4th month traveling to a large children’s hospital for neurology check-ups and lab work. We had a great neurologist! As I sit back and think over these years I find myself teary-eyed and baffled at how I ever made it through without being put on some type of medication!

Honestly Scattered

From the outside, people I have come into contact with through church, business, and college, have unknowingly called me “scattered brain” or “airhead” based on the outward appearance of my actions. The strange thing is that those were the exact moments that I was dealing with some form of a medical emergency with one of my children.  I was judged from the outside without the person taking any thought as to why I might be coming across in a certain manner.

OUCH! Those Accusations!

From the outside, people judge another person without taking the time to get to know them or their situation. I mean, who has time these days to get to know another person? (honest sarcasm wrote here)

Here is a list of accusations I’ve dealt with and the reason behind them, let me know if you can relate!

  1. Are you bipolar? No, I just dealt with my child having a major seizure and her foot was stuck in the back of the kitchen chair while her body was flinging off the side and her head was banging into the wall! Now, let’s talk about business deals!
  2. Are you depressed? No, I’m just dealing with another set back with my daughters (yes, plural.) lab results and it looks like both children have to have a 5-day hospital stay so we can figure out what medication will actually stop their episodes while making sure my other two daughters have a safe place to stay, food to eat, and get to school on time. Oh, plus I have some virtual assistant business clients expecting their blog content to be completed on time.
  3. Are you tired? Yes, I can’t remember the last time I slept through the night without waking up to make sure my children were still alive.
  4. Are you lazy? No, in fact, I’m the most organized, purpose-driven mother you’ll ever know. I can guarantee you that my calendar all-in-one planner would make your head spin! Perhaps this is why I’m a white belt Lean Six Sigma and have companies ask me to “volunteer” my time to get their team organized. (Unfortunately, I can’t take zero payment for these services because I have a family to care for financially. )
  5. Are you OCD? Uhm, let’s see! If making sure the medication is organized and properly placed …or that there are no tripping hazards (everywhere we go), or making sure that they are never, EVER alone, or keeping my eyes on them in the pool or ocean, or checking how often they suffer from migraines.. and the other 1 MILLION other things I think about on a daily basis… then perhaps I am OCD.

This blog post was a snippet of humor and reality and is meant to help other mom’s ‘laugh through the tears’ of having loved and lost while caring for chronically ill loved ones. There are so many things that go through our minds on a daily basis, and even more unexpected things that get thrown into our day that we either become very organized and methodical or we allow them to pull us under. It’s our choice! We choose whether we are going to excel or suffocate. I hope you choose to excel, my friend!

Go, Excel!

Be the one person in another person’s life that makes them feel VICTORIOUS instead of VICTIMIZED! Our world and the major message that is spread through advertising is hurtful to our spirit, in fact, most of the news stories and funding are based on VICTIMIZATION and not VICTORIOUS living. Be the victorious women you were made to be, regardless of the hurdles in your life!

Be mindful of your music, your friends, your reading material, your social media connections, your relatives. Stand firm on the truth that you are here for a reason and you are walking this personalized journey.for.a.reason! Acknowledge the struggles, the pain, the uneasy and uncomfortable and find the strength that is hidden inside of those.

You’ve Got This because He’s Got You! <— #truth #onlyjesus #gracewins

 

Posting Reminders

I am the type of person that needs physical reminders of God’s unfailing love for me and how victorious I can be in this life. Some of my favorite reminders are posting bible verses on index cards and hanging them on my mirror and refrigerator, along with wearing jewelry charms.

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sterling silver charms believe in yourself anchors \ sterling silver charm jewelry

Memory Bears made from your favorite clothing made right here in Beaufort, South Carolina. My Sewing Needle is owned and operated solely by Stephanie Grams. Grams has been sewing since her grandma and mother taught her at the age of seven, and hasn’t put the sewing needle down since! You can find Grams selling her OOAK primitive dolls and offering memory bear sewing services year round! Visit Stephanie’s contact page for media inquiries and/or to place an order for a memory bear!

Moving Forward After Loss: Learn a New Hobby

Moving Forward After Loss: Learn a New Hobby

After my daughters’ death, I found myself searching for ways to create a new ‘normal’ for myself and my family. This did not happen quickly and if memory serves me correctly, it took about three years. During those three years, I finished my college education, moved to a new home, separated from my husband, and then crashed! Seriously, for the first time in my life, I actually felt as if I had crashed into an invisible wall and there was no way around it.

Hobby-Time

I don’t think I set out to find a new hobby out of boredom, I believe it was to make me feel alive again and it ended up being one of the things that pulled me out of my ‘funk’. I’m going to share with you why learning a new hobby could be the one thing you need to implement in your life as you  “walk through the valley of the shadow of death.”

5 Reasons a Hobby After Loss Is Good for You

  1. Learning a new hobby takes time and often forces you to leave your house and meet new people. Often times it can take experimenting with a variety of hobbies before finding one that suits you perfectly. During this time be sure to give yourself permission to enjoy life again.
  2. Learning a new hobby at any age, especially after the loss of a loved one, can give you the opportunity to learn more about yourself that you may not have known before this event.
  3. Learning a new hobby can be the one thing that connects you with others who may be going through an earlier stage in the grieving process, ultimately giving you the option to help them through their time of sorrow while helping yourself.
  4. Learning a new hobby takes time, as I mentioned earlier, and this means you have less time to spend alone. I know first hand that the evenings and times I was alone were among the most difficult to bear. Having a new hobby gave me the opportunity to take my mind off Hannah while helping me feel like I could breathe again.
  5. Learning a new hobby can be good for your overall health; physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. Among my new found hobbies were bi-weekly mom’s groups at my church, offering me the opportunity to come up with table favors to give to the other mother’s who were joining us for a few hours of encouragement and inspiration.

This blog is written from my personal story and should never take the place of medical or legal care. Please remember to see your doctor for their advice. I hope you took a moment to join my newsletter and receive your free pdf bible verse and journal.

Take Good Care!

Stephanie Grams

 

Memory Bears made from your favorite clothing made right here in Beaufort, South Carolina. My Sewing Needle is owned and operated solely by Stephanie Grams. Grams has been sewing since her grandma and mother taught her at the age of seven, and hasn’t put the sewing needle down since! You can find Grams selling her OOAK primitive dolls and offering memory bear sewing services year round! Visit Stephanie’s contact page for media inquiries and/or to place an order for a memory bear!