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Sentimental Christmas Gifts 2018

It’s October 3 but to those of you who are already giving Christmas gifts a thought you might be feeling stressed, confused or even heart palpitations! ..Okay, so that’s a little off the wall but I know that the older my children get (all four are adults now!) the harder it is to come up with a useful and meaningful gift. I mean, they could always use gift cards and cash but I would like to have something more meaningful for each of them to have and keep for their future family.

CHRISTMAS THESE DAYS!

I think it’s safe to say that today’s gift givers are looking for a more meaningful gift to give our loved ones and what better gift than that made of a sentimental piece of clothing? Since I began offering sentimental sewing services such as memory bears and memory pillows, it came to my attention that many of my customers would like to have a matching memory blanket made…so today I am offering memory blanket sewing services!

 

SENTIMENTAL GIFTS

Memory bears, memory pillows/pillowcases, and blankets can be made from combining your favorite dress, suit, ties, shirts, uniforms, blankets…just about anything you or your loved one used to wear. Don’t worry about holes or stains, I can work around those! Please know that to ensure CHRISTMAS DELIVERY I must have your clothing and your payment by October 20, 2018

PRICING AND DETAILS

T-Shirt Blankets

Pillows/Pillowcases

Memory Bears 

Memory Bear Pricing

Single Memory Bear $75.00 plus shipping
Groups of 2 memory bears or more $50.00 each plus shipping

Memory Blanket/Memory Quilt Pricing

 

QUILT /BLANKET SIZING and PRICING USING

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ADULT SHIRTS SIZES L, XL, XXL

  • Lap = 4 ft. W  x 4 ft.L = 16 panels = $90
  • Twin = 4 ft.W x 6 ft.L  = 24 panels = $110
  • Full = 5ft.W x 6 ft.L =  30 panels = $130
  • Queen = 7 ft. Wx 7 ft. L =  49 panels = $190
  • King = 8 ft. Wx 8 ft. L = 64 panels = $240

NEWBORN, INFANT, CHILDREN SHIRTS

  • SMALL : 2.5 ft.W x 3.5 ft. L = 24 panels =  $110
  • MEDIUM: 3 ft. W x 3.5 ft. L = 30 panels = $130
  • LARGE: 4.5 ft. W x 4.5 ft. L = 49 panels = $190
  • EXTRA LARGE: 5 ft. W x 5 ft. L = 64 panels = $240

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Notes:

1 panel equals 1 side of your shirt. If you have a shirt with a picture on the front and the back and you would like to have both panels included in the quilt then you would count that as 2 panels.

 

Memory Bears made from your favorite clothing made right here in Beaufort, South Carolina. My Sewing Needle is owned and operated solely by Stephanie Grams. Grams has been sewing since her grandma and mother taught her at the age of seven, and hasn’t put the sewing needle down since! You can find Grams selling her OOAK primitive dolls and offering memory bear sewing services year round! Visit Stephanie’s contact page for media inquiries and/or to place an order for a memory bear!

Memory Care Gift Ideas for Loved One with Alzheimer’s

Memory Care Gift Ideas for Loved One with Alzheimer’s

Today’s blog post is going to steer away from my regular blog topic of being a bereaved mom to that of having a loved one with Alzheimer’s.

My paternal grandmother, the one that was an integral part of teaching me how to sew and be a crafty soul, who ended up with Alzheimer’s. According to the Alzheimer’s Association, there are three stages of Alzheimer’s; mild, moderate, and severe.

I remember the first signs of Alzheimer’s in my grandmother was when she would buy cat food thinking it was tuna fish for human consumption. About that same time, she began displaying unusual acts such as stealing silverware from restaurants and carrying them in her purse, and stealing pictures of unrelated people and saying they were pictures of her boyfriend. As you can imagine this caused some family turmoil and heartache. I remember watching her go ‘downhill’ quickly and feeling like I was watching a slow death happen right in front of me, or at least what I compare to slow death. You have to give me grace because I was a young and this happened in the mid-1990’s when there was no internet, not television commercials and definitely very little education.

When thou passest through the waters,
I will be with thee;
and through the rivers,
they shall not overflow thee:
when thou walkest through the fire,
thou shalt not be burned;
neither shall the flame kindle upon thee. ~ Isaiah 43:2

For a short while, she lived with my family until one day she decided she was “going home”. She proceeded to put on her winter coat and boots (it was 90 degree’s outside) and leave. Our house was on a very busy road that was connected to a major highway, needless to say, I followed her and carefully got her back to the house unharmed. It was at that time we knew there had to be some help, we just didn’t know where to look. I’m so thankful that there are memory care facilities that specialize in the hands-on care that those living with Alzheimer’s can live safely, other than nursing homes.

Nursing Home

While my grandmother lived in the nursing home almost an hour away from our house, we would make a visit to her every week. During her few years there and as she progressively grew worse, we would make sure she had some items familiar to her. The moment she lost her ability to speak was the most traumatic for me, personally, because I knew that I would never be able to hear her voice again. I could see her smile, hold her hand, hug her and feed her and though those are all the ways we communicate, there was just something so heartbreaking knowing I would never hear her voice again.

We made sure to bring memory care gifts to my grandmother on a regular basis once we learned that other residents would walk off with her gifts. I believe that the memory care facilities that are available these days have a better system in place to be sure that each resident has the ability to keep their personal items within their own rooms.

Here are a few memory care gifts that we brought to her:

  1. Pictures – we made copies of pictures that she has in her house, being sure to keep the originals in a safe place. Scrapbooking was not popular or readily available as it is now, so a scrapbook would be perfect and more durable.
  2. Clothing – she loved the color mauve so we did what we could to find mauve colored clothing.
  3. Toys– she loved cats and we noticed how she perked up when we bought her a replicated a real cat. Oh, how she loved that toy!

Now that I provide memory care gift sewing services, I know how sentimental her favorite, handmade dresses and blouses mean. I do not have a way to get those pieces of clothing back, but if I could, I would have made memory bears for all of her grandchildren. I think that thing that drives me to create one of a kind memory bears for families is because

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Stephanie Grams, Christian Blogger Mom on topics of lifestyle, bereavement, child loss and healing, and how to give gifts of encouragement during life’s storms. Stephanie is available for podcast and video interviews, public speaking, and guest blogging. Did you get your free pdf journal? It’s free when you join my newsletter! #mysewingneedle

 

 

Memory Bears made from your favorite clothing made right here in Beaufort, South Carolina. My Sewing Needle is owned and operated solely by Stephanie Grams. Grams has been sewing since her grandma and mother taught her at the age of seven, and hasn’t put the sewing needle down since! You can find Grams selling her OOAK primitive dolls and offering memory bear sewing services year round! Visit Stephanie’s contact page for media inquiries and/or to place an order for a memory bear!

Moving Forward After Loss: Learn a New Hobby

Moving Forward After Loss: Learn a New Hobby

After my daughters’ death, I found myself searching for ways to create a new ‘normal’ for myself and my family. This did not happen quickly and if memory serves me correctly, it took about three years. During those three years, I finished my college education, moved to a new home, separated from my husband, and then crashed! Seriously, for the first time in my life, I actually felt as if I had crashed into an invisible wall and there was no way around it.

Hobby-Time

I don’t think I set out to find a new hobby out of boredom, I believe it was to make me feel alive again and it ended up being one of the things that pulled me out of my ‘funk’. I’m going to share with you why learning a new hobby could be the one thing you need to implement in your life as you  “walk through the valley of the shadow of death.”

5 Reasons a Hobby After Loss Is Good for You

  1. Learning a new hobby takes time and often forces you to leave your house and meet new people. Often times it can take experimenting with a variety of hobbies before finding one that suits you perfectly. During this time be sure to give yourself permission to enjoy life again.
  2. Learning a new hobby at any age, especially after the loss of a loved one, can give you the opportunity to learn more about yourself that you may not have known before this event.
  3. Learning a new hobby can be the one thing that connects you with others who may be going through an earlier stage in the grieving process, ultimately giving you the option to help them through their time of sorrow while helping yourself.
  4. Learning a new hobby takes time, as I mentioned earlier, and this means you have less time to spend alone. I know first hand that the evenings and times I was alone were among the most difficult to bear. Having a new hobby gave me the opportunity to take my mind off Hannah while helping me feel like I could breathe again.
  5. Learning a new hobby can be good for your overall health; physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. Among my new found hobbies were bi-weekly mom’s groups at my church, offering me the opportunity to come up with table favors to give to the other mother’s who were joining us for a few hours of encouragement and inspiration.

This blog is written from my personal story and should never take the place of medical or legal care. Please remember to see your doctor for their advice. I hope you took a moment to join my newsletter and receive your free pdf bible verse and journal.

Take Good Care!

Stephanie Grams

 

Memory Bears made from your favorite clothing made right here in Beaufort, South Carolina. My Sewing Needle is owned and operated solely by Stephanie Grams. Grams has been sewing since her grandma and mother taught her at the age of seven, and hasn’t put the sewing needle down since! You can find Grams selling her OOAK primitive dolls and offering memory bear sewing services year round! Visit Stephanie’s contact page for media inquiries and/or to place an order for a memory bear!

A Mom’s View: How to Deal with the Death of a Child

A Mom’s View: How to Deal with the Death of a Child

The ordeal actually began unfolding on Hannah’s first birthday in September 2001 and went wrongfully diagnosed until her autopsy report after Thanksgiving 2001. It’s difficult to believe that as of today’s date she has been gone 17 years! I actually have to look at the calendar and remind my heart that this is in fact because most days my brain and heart to do not agree. *wink*

Hannah’s Illness

Weekly doctor visits happened for three months prior to her passing, all visits resulted in a wrong diagnosis, that ultimately led to her death. You can read more about Hannah’s illness here.

How to Deal?

Dealing with your child’s passing is a personal choice and there is not one person who can tell you how to deal with your loss, however, I can share my story with you and how I deal with my daughters’ unexpected death. Notice I didn’t say “dealt” as if in the past because every day she is part of my thoughts and I deal with this reality daily.

FAITH

Yes, you’ve got it! My faith in the Lord is the one sure thing that continues to bring me through the grieving and healing process. I am a born-again Christian and you can learn more about salvation by clicking on the title “God’s Plan of Salvation”.

I’ll tell you when Hannah died I was shaken to the core and I went through some scary emotions and had so many thoughts. I vividly remember coming home after spending the day at Salt Fork Lake (in Ohio) and my four daughters and I were so exhausted! We had a great day and for the first time in several years, I can remember laughing without pretending! Then, it hit me like a big punch in the gut! You know, those sneaky thoughts of ‘false guilt’ (satan’s tricky tactic!) and it went like this, “Wow! How can you enjoy your life knowing that your daughter is buried right up the street and she is missing out on all this fun.”

I CRUMBLED! I can not explain to you what that moment did to me and my sunny day went BLACK! I fought a type of depression for a year after that episode and I am here to tell you…I won the battle because I ran to the Lord. I did not try to win this battle of my mind and emotions on my own. It was the worse wrestling match I have ever been involved in, and in the end, I came out victorious. Oh, don’t get me wrong, it was not a battle I won on my own or of my own will and power…it was of the Lord and completely out of this world!

Final Thought

The wrestling match ended with this final truth, and that truth was this:

  1. Hannah’s life was planned before I knew her.

Psalm 139 

For You formed my inward parts;
You [f]covered me in my mother’s womb.
14 I will praise You, for [g]I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Marvelous are Your works,
And that my soul knows very well.
15 My [h]frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in Your book they all were written,
The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them.

2. Hannah was created for the Lord and I, as her mother, was the recipient of His gift. Meaning, our children, my child, is a gift from God and she was only loaned to me for a specific period of time. I will not pretend the pain of holding my deceased daughter does not sting, because death does sting no matter how much time has gone.

James 1:17 ESV
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change. 

It’s been 17 years since I said my final goodbye this side of heaven, standing over my daughters’ coffin in the cemetery that snowy, cold, drizzly, grey day and I said goodbye with hope. My grieving has been one based on God’s promise to all who believe and have accepted His gift of salvation. Grace through Faith from Jesus Christ. Over these 17 years, I have seen parents grieve without hope, and that is the ultimate sorrow.

1 THESSALONIANS 4:13
But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning those who are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others who have no hope.

I find peace and comfort reading my King James Bible and spending time with the Lord daily. I’m not “super Christian”, in fact, I am a sinner saved by Grace through Jesus Christ and not of any works that I do. I do nice things for others out of a grateful heart from what Jesus has done for me.

There are no shortcuts to God, there are no magic or spiritual things to bring our dead child back to us and there are no quick paths to healing from the loss of your child. Give yourself time, seeking medical help if you are dealing with depression, and seek the Lord for the real healing that only He can give. 

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Stephanie Grams, Christian Blogger Mom on topics of lifestyle, bereavement, child loss and healing, and how to give gifts of encouragement during life’s storms. Stephanie is available for podcast and video interviews, public speaking, and guest blogging. Did you get your free pdf journal? It’s free when you join my newsletter! #mysewingneedle

Memory Bears made from your favorite clothing made right here in Beaufort, South Carolina. My Sewing Needle is owned and operated solely by Stephanie Grams. Grams has been sewing since her grandma and mother taught her at the age of seven, and hasn’t put the sewing needle down since! You can find Grams selling her OOAK primitive dolls and offering memory bear sewing services year round! Visit Stephanie’s contact page for media inquiries and/or to place an order for a memory bear!

5 New Things I Do As A Bereaved Mother

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5 New Things I Do As A Bereaved Mother

 

The day my toddler daughter, Hannah Grace, passed away I went from being titled “the mom of the five daughters” to “the mom with 4 daughters and a dead baby”; the bereaved mother in town. I was encompassed with grief and strange emotions and add to that, I had to figure out a new way of life. This led me to write this post about the new things I do as a bereaved mother and why I do these new things. Grief has been a journey that brought me to a fork in the road…either be better or be bitter.

With the Lord’s help, I beat bitterness and became better. My hope through this blog is to help you through your journey.

Bereaved Mom Moments

  1. Look up her diagnosis regularly online to see if there has been any new research or medical breakthrough in the illness that took her life. This typically starts with me pulling out her death certificate and reading over her autopsy reports, from there I go online and began to research any new information on the virus and any related causes that could have come out of new research.
  2. Look at pennies and dimes as if she were the one that placed them there, interestingly enough, those two coins show up out of nowhere when I’m having an extra rough day. The evening that Hannah was dying, the two of us spent 12 hours in the local emergency room alone in a backroom just being together. This would end up being the most important 12 hours of my life, those hours would shape everything in my world in a new way. About a month after Hannah passed away I found myself back in the same emergency room with my oldest daughter who had a flurry of seizures (she is an epileptic) the emergency room secretary brought me a penny placed inside an angel jewelry box. She proceeded to tell me that she was working the night that Hannah was pronounced dead, she said that she immediately broke down and as she returned to her computer, there, sitting on the edge of the printer was a penny. She said she was the only worker in that computer station and there was no penny before Hannah passed away. That’s when I was introduced to “pennies from heaven.” Regardless of whether you believe in this or not, the fact is that it’s kind of strange that pennies and dimes (I’ll tell you about those later) just appear out of nowhere and in places that they were not just minutes before.
  3. Hord her pictures, as in, not wanting my other four daughters to touch them. This sounds terrible but I just can’t replace the few photographs of Hannah that I have.
  4. Scrubbing and decorating her tombstone when I get the chance to visit the cemetery she is buried in. I never gave any thought about tombstones and keeping them clean and how the act of doing this would cause me to be engulfed with mixed emotions such as sadness, questions, comfort, and celebration. Weird, right? Especially celebration because on the surface we are taught that there should be no celebration of any sort when it comes to death. Well, as a born-again Christian I have to look past the physical and see the spiritual and that causes me to celebrate the fact that Hannah is no longer ill or in pain, and that she is in Heaven with my Lord and Savior celebrating what real life is all about, and for that truth, I can celebrate through my temporary, earthly pain.
  5. Breaking down in tears over nothing at random times on any given day. Honestly, I’ve analyzed these bouts and can’t pin down any reason why I have them since most of the time they happen at random without any thought as to what I’m doing, who I’m with or how I feel. It’s an odd happening that I have come to respect and view as perhaps, my hearts longing to hold her again. Regardless, I take those moments and hide away from the world and have a heart to heart conversation with the Lord on how thankful I am for His gift of salvation and for giving me the gift of Hannah.

It’s been 17 years since Hannah passed away and I often catch myself thinking that these habits should have disappeared by now, then I’m reminded that in my heart, Hannah hasn’t been gone all that long and I should give myself permission to feel what I need to feel and continue the journey of healing.

Did you know that healing isn’t forgetting, in fact, healing allows you to embrace everything new in life while having a healthy view on the time you had with your loved one. I think this is a personal point of view and my hope for you is that you can find your new “new” each day you journey through life, taking time to remember the good times and allowing those moments to take over any grief you might be feeling. Do I believe that time heals? My answer to this question is simply this, “time gives us the opportunity to embrace what’s happened and learn how to move forward in our life while taking the good memories with us on this journey.”

One of my favorite verses has been Psalm 30:1-3

30 I will extol you, O Lord, for you have drawn me up
    and have not let my foes rejoice over me.
Lord my God, I cried to you for help,
    and you have healed me.
Lord, you have brought up my soul from Sheol;
    you restored me to life from among those who go down to the pit.[a]

 

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Stephanie Grams, Christian Blogger Mom on topics of lifestyle, bereavement, child loss and healing, and how to give gifts of encouragement during life’s storms. Stephanie is available for podcast and video interviews, public speaking, and guest blogging. Grief has been a journey that brought me to a fork in the road…either be better or be bitter. With the Lord’s help, I beat bitterness and became better. My hope through this blog is to help you through your journey.  Did you get your free pdf journal? It’s free when you join my newsletter! #mysewingneedle

 

Memory Bears made from your favorite clothing made right here in Beaufort, South Carolina. My Sewing Needle is owned and operated solely by Stephanie Grams. Grams has been sewing since her grandma and mother taught her at the age of seven, and hasn’t put the sewing needle down since! You can find Grams selling her OOAK primitive dolls and offering memory bear sewing services year round! Visit Stephanie’s contact page for media inquiries and/or to place an order for a memory bear!

5 Gifts Ideas for Those Who Are Grieving

Gift Giving for any occasion can is stressful enough but when you are buying for someone who is grieving, it can cause additional stress. What if you are the one grieving and the one shopping? This can cause additional stress for you, wouldn’t it be nice if you had a list of ideas that were specifically geared for those who are grieving? The grief and memorial gift ideas listed below can be found online, and are created for shoppers just like you.

When my daughter passed away (she was 14 months old) it was a few days after Thanksgiving and it was also during the Christmas shopping season, as you can imagine I was completely heartbroken and still expected to Christmas shop for my other children. I was in such a state of shock and heartbreak that I could not think straight, I just could not wrap my mind around Christmas shopping. I so wished I had a gift guide this one to have helped me and help my loved ones with gift ideas. On the other hand, losing my child also caused my relatives to question what gift to buy me. It really was a time of overwhelm and loneliness.

5 Gifts Ideas for Those Who Are Grieving

  1. Memory Bears – memory teddy bears are made out of the clothes of your loved one and offer a tangible way to remember the one who has passed. Memory Bears are often kept in the family as a keepsake and passed down throughout the family.
  2. Memory Pillows – memory pillows are often made from the shirts or blouses of the deceased loved one and include a poem. Memory pillows also offer a tangible way to remember your loved one and give a special type of comfort to the person who is grieving.
  3. Grief and Memorial Gift Boxes- these gift boxes are often curated with the option to choose a variety of handpicked and handmade items of high value and excellent quality. Grief and Memorial Boxes make a great gift for the gift receiver who is experiencing extreme loneliness or could use an ‘I remember’ you gift during different times of the year.
  4. Memory Quilts – memory quilts or blankets are made from a variety of items such as shirts, robes, dresses, blankets, and other clothing that your loved one once wore. These types of memory items are often costly but come in a variety of sizes from lap-sized blankets to those that fit a king size bed.
  5. Memory Ornaments- we often think that ornaments are only for Christmas trees, however, ornaments are often used throughout the year and are hung on doorknobs, windows, bed frames, and wall hangings. Ornaments offer the bereaved the constant comfort of having their loved one present. These memory ornaments are often made from the clothing remnants from the memory bears or pillows, or from printed fabric that the loved one finds comforting. There are other options for memory ornaments such as glass or plastic filled with glitter and personalized or even made from wood circles that depict your loved one’s picture.

I hope these 5 Gifts Ideas for Those Who Are Grieving brings comfort to you as you go through the grieving process or offers you a variety of ideas for buying a gift for your bereaved loved one. There is numerous bereaved gift option offered through the online marketplace and it is important that you find a gift provider who is ethical and offers quality items.

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Stephanie Grams, owner, and operator of ‘My Sewing Needle’; your full-service bereavement gift provider. We currently offer memory teddy bears, memory pillows made from shirts, grief, and bereavement gift boxes. We offer price discounts to large orders. Sign-up for our newsletter for discounts, sales, and industry news. Media: please see StephanieGrams.com for more information or via my contact page

 

Memory Bears made from your favorite clothing made right here in Beaufort, South Carolina. My Sewing Needle is owned and operated solely by Stephanie Grams. Grams has been sewing since her grandma and mother taught her at the age of seven, and hasn’t put the sewing needle down since! You can find Grams selling her OOAK primitive dolls and offering memory bear sewing services year round! Visit Stephanie’s contact page for media inquiries and/or to place an order for a memory bear!